How to know if he is falling in love with you or if he already is in love with you. A lot of women have grand illusions about, what love should be like as a result of movies or music and pop culture? And because of that, they might hold love up to this standard that is just impossible.
Other women may have been burned so many times in the past that they put walls up, and they’re unable to receive or even give love. Love can be a tricky thing, a guy can say he loves you before he really feels it, and a guy can love you for a long time before he feels ready to say it.
Love as beautiful as it is can also be really scary, and a lot of them keep their guard up until they know for sure that the other person feels a certain way. But I’m here to help and give you the clearest signs that a man is absolutely in love with you or falling in love with you.
Signs He’s Falling in Love With You:
1. The Way He Looks At You:
He looks at you like you’re a unicorn, or like you are a magical being, or like he cannot believe that you exist. He might come right out and save you like:
“I can’t believe you exist.”
It’s not a look of lust or passion or desire, even though he probably will feel those things too for you if he’s in love with you. This is more of a look of calm, awe, and serenity, a look of disbelief like:
“I can’t believe that you’re real.”
He’ll also look at you a lot because when we like someone or love someone, we can’t keep our eyes off of them.
2. He Wants To Give To You, By Trying To Make You Happy :
Real love is about giving, not taking. One of the surest signs that a guy isn’t serious about you and does it love you is that he’s only there for you when he wants to get his needs met. The rest of the time he’s just too busy, or he’s too swamped, or he’s just having too much else going.
True love is other-oriented: it is about giving all you can to the other person. This is why parents typically love their children so much more than children love their parents. Parents are the ones doing all the giving, and the children are just taking. He gives to you by trying to make you happy by prioritizing you by being the best he can be for you. He gives you his all mentally and emotionally, and he is just all in with his full self.
3. He Wants To Immerse Himself In Your Life And Vice Versa:
He wants to meet your family, your friends, and he wants all of them to like him. Also, he wants you to meet his people, and he doesn’t just want you to meet his friends and family. He wants you to become best friends with them and with his sister. And he wants you to be friends with his guy friends with their wives and their girlfriends. He wants to be immersed in your life.
4. He Includes In His Future:
He includes you in his vision for the future, he doesn’t make grand abstract plans, and he makes sure that you are in.
5. He Sees You:
He may notice things about you that others don’t. He may see you even more clearly than you see yourself, and he notices;
- How do you interact with others?
- How do people feel in your presence?
- How do you interact with yourself?
- How do you process emotions?
- How do you handle situations?
He might have more clarity about you than you do. He truly sees the essence of who you are, and he appreciates the full scope of who you are. This doesn’t mean that he loves your bad qualities. He sees and accepts them as being part of the full package. And he doesn’t just love you, he loves things about you.
Loving someone does not mean that you love the way they make you feel. This is a very selfish kind of love, and this is a very common misconception about love, this is what people think love is. They think you make me feel good, so I love you, but that’s not real. Because what happens when that person isn’t making you feel good.
Love isn’t about how the other person makes you feel. It is about truly genuinely loving them for who they are.
6. Your Happiness Is As Important To Him As His Own:
It might be even more important because all a man needs is for the woman that he’s with to be truly happy. And what drives a man is to make a woman happy when he loves her.
Your happiness is an utmost priority to him, and he will do whatever it takes to make you happy. I want to add a caveat here that the healthiest relationships are ones where two people are happy in their own lives and bring that into the relationship. Not ones where people are just trying to extract happiness from the relationship.
So you mustn’t rely on him for your happiness, but you can see, acknowledge, and recognize when a man truly does want to make you happy and when your happiness is genuinely so important to him.
7. He Misses You When You’re Apart:
Men typically fall in love in a woman’s absence rather than her presence. It’s very easy to shower you with love and affection when you’re together, and you’re having that mushy-gushy and lovey-dovey time, but what’s he like when you’re not with him?
- Does he miss you?
- Does he make an effort to reach out?
- Does he let you know that he’s thinking about you?
Or does he just disappear for days and weeks on end? And then reappear and say that;
“I’m sorry, I was just a super swamper.”
Well, we love someone, and we yearn for their presence and think about them often. Just remind us of them throughout the day, and we want to share it with them.
They are always on our mind, we’re not constantly obsessing over them because that’s not true love, but that’s an unhealthy obsession. They’re not always at the forefront of your mind, but they’re always on your mind, and they’re always somewhere in there even if it’s just in the background.
Sometimes, they’ll be in the front, and they’ll be more in the background but either way, they’re just always there. So when you’re not with them, you’re reaching out, and you do not just disappear into the abyss and for days on end. When a man is in love with you, he’ll be in touch, he’ll be there, and you’ll know that he plans to stay there.
8. He Keeps You In The Loop:
When a man loves you or falls in love with you, he won’t leave you hanging. He keeps you in the loop, and he keeps you informed. You’re not wondering;
“Where he is, what he’s up to, what’s going on?”
He just stays in touch.
9. He’s There For You When It’s Inconvenient:
Being there for you was easy when everything’s going great and everything’s perfect in the relationship. But what’s he like when you need him to be there for you.
- Is he there for you when you need him?
- Is he too busy when things suddenly become inconvenient or a little too much for him to handle?
When a man loves you, nothing will be more important to him than being there for you. When you need him, he’ll show up and step it up; even if it’s hard, uncomfortable, and inconvenient, he’ll be there for you.
10. He Doesn’t Give Up:
He puts his all into the relationship, and he wants to make it work. When we love someone, we are looking for reasons to stick it out and to make it work, but we are not looking for reasons to leave.
If a guy says he loves you, but he wants to give up because it’s too hard then, it’s just too much that you just can’t anymore. It probably wasn’t true love, to begin with, or maybe it was true love, but you just have way too many fundamental incompatibilities. And there’s just no way to make this work, or if you did force it to work, you would just make each other miserable.
You don’t worry about how he feels if you have to ask; you already know that answer when a man loves you. It’s obvious he tells you, you see it, it’s not only about the words because words are easy as they say talk is cheap. It comes across into action like; love is a verb, it comes across through his actions, and he does loving actions consistently.
When someone truly loves you, his behavior won’t arouse feelings of anxiety and insecurity and just uncertainty within. You assuming that you are an emotionally healthy person. If you aren’t and you don’t trust anybody in life in general then, it’s really important that you deal with that and not take that out on this guy. And potentially risk pushing him away, but usually, when a man loves you, you feel at peace it’s. There’s just ease to it, and there’s no obsessing, wondering, and questioning;
- Does he like me?
- How does he feel?
- Does he love me?
If there aren’t any of that signs, when you feel like the rug could be pulled out from under you at any moment in the relationship. It’s usually a sign that this man doesn’t love you, or he isn’t serious about you or isn’t on the same page as you. It could be that he does like you a lot, he doesn’t love you, or he doesn’t like you enough or doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.
More: Get A Great Guy Guide
And it’s important, to be honest with yourself when you’re in this situation. And it’s so easy to delude yourselves because when a guy doesn’t like you, he’s not acting mean to you all the time. Sometimes he’s really sweet, sometimes he’s affectionate, and sometimes, it seems like he’s serious and committed. But other times, he disappears, inconsistent, confusing, or sends mixed signals. And you try to hold on to the good things he does, and the times when he’s sweet, and he seems like he’s being such a good boyfriend.
You try to disregard the rest, but it’s important to take the whole thing into account. Overall the majority of the time that you were with him in this relationship, how do you feel? Usually, there will be a feeling of calm and peace, and just knowing when someone loves you, he shows it.