He likes you but doesn’t want anything serious. How to know if a guy likes you but doesn’t like you enough or doesn’t want anything serious, and what to do about it?
When a guy likes you, it’s obvious, and this is true the confusion comes. When a guy likes you but doesn’t like you enough and doesn’t want a relationship with you, this is where a lot of women get stuck because you have this guy, and you like him, and he likes you, and you’d be foolish to let go of a guy you like.
Why He Likes You But Doesn’t Want Anything Serious?
One likely reason could be that he just got out of a breakup, maybe he got heartbroken, and he just doesn’t have the emotional bandwidth to get into another serious relationship right now.
It’s also possible that he doesn’t like you enough. He likes you a little bit, but not enough to want to commit to you. And this is a difference between guys and girls because guys can like you a little bit. Most women aren’t like that, but most of them like it, they are all in, and they don’t have that same attitude.
The third possibility is that he just doesn’t want to commit to anyone right now, maybe he has commitment issues, or maybe he just wants to be more financially stable or more established in his career or whatever it is in his mind. He wants to wait until he hits that point, and he can commit.
The reasons; he doesn’t want to commit don’t matter, the facts do, and if he doesn’t want a relationship with you then, you should not stay in this situation. Unless you want to seriously get your heart broken because that’s usually how things turn out.
Signs He Likes You But Doesn’t Want Anything Serious:
1. He Sends Mixed Signals:
You could call this the wishy-washy being hot and cold. No matter the case, he is just inconsistent with you. My motto about mixed signals is that mixed messages are one clear message he doesn’t want to be with you.
So why does he send you any signals at all? Because he likes you a little bit, he enjoys hanging out with you. It’s a nice boost to his ego, and he has fun with you. So that’s why you’re still getting some signals. That’s why he doesn’t cut you out completely, but he doesn’t like you enough to take things further.
When a guy seriously likes you, he is there, and he doesn’t leave that open space for someone else to come in and snatch you.
Men are hunters by nature. A hunter isn’t gonna let his prey roam out of sight and allow some other hunter to grab her. He knows that this prey is valuable, so you need to keep it close, not to say that your prey.
2. He’s All Talk:
It is very easy to say things take a little more effort to back them up with actions, and guys communicate through actions more than words.
“I like you so much I’ve never liked a girl after only a few weeks.”
Questions Ask Yourself:
- How does he treat you?
- Does he call you regularly?
- Does he text you regularly?
- Is he there for you?
- Does he make an effort to see you?
- Does he go in and out of your life and only popping up when it’s convenient for him or when he wants to get his needs met?
We want to hang on to the words, especially when the words he’s saying align with how we want reality to be, but you have to look at the way: he’s acting or treating you.
If what he says and his behaviors align then, he likes you. If he’s saying one thing for behaving a totally different way then, he likes you just a little bit, but not enough for a serious relationship with you.
3. He Tells You I Don’t Want A Relationship Right Now:
This one seems obvious, but yet somehow it’s not and I get it because I was once that girl. I was the girl that was here from a guy I don’t want a relationship with right now, and I would stick around hoping that with a little bit of time, love, and more of me showing him. How great I am that he would change his mind.
When the guy says; he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now, believe him. A guy is rarely gonna change his mind in this situation, and he’s definitely not gonna change his mind by just being there and catering to his every whim. And trying to prove yourself to him and how amazing you are in the hopes that this gets him to change his mind.
He’ll only change his mind if you walk away. And if you walk away, and he comes after you and gives you that commitment, that means; he really likes you. If you leave and he lets you go, he was just never serious about you, to begin with.
4. You Have No Idea:
- What’s going on?
- What kind of relationship are you in?
- Where do you stand with this guy?
- How does he really feel about you?
You were completely confused. You don’t know what’s going on? And it just feels horrible to you.
Another one of my mantras is just bringing out these terrible emotions that you’re experiencing are your body’s, and that something’s not right and you need to exit the situation.
Let’s leave and get out of here, it’s your heart, and you can’t pull yourself away even though you know this situation isn’t what you want and isn’t what you deserve.
5. He Doesn’t Give You Anything:
It’s not about gifts or material things, it’s about giving the heart, the emotions, the time, and the energy. If he’s not there for you, it’s because he doesn’t care enough to be what he is really giving you aside from temporary shots of validation?
When he does or says something that indicates he might like you, what are you really getting out of this relationship or situation? I’m sure you’re giving him your time, attention, and love.
What is he doing for you?
You’re trying to get him past whatever hump is holding him back, or you’re trying to love him back to life to help them heal to help them get over whatever his issues are. What is he doing for you?
But the fact is all this giving they’re doing is just getting you nowhere because he’s not on the same page with you.
What To Do If He Likes You But Doesn’t Want Anything Serious?
First of all, realize that it’s not personal, and it doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough or that you’re unworthy.
Not everyone’s a match, and basically, what makes you match everyone has what they want to give and what they want to get in a relationship. And if what you have to give is what the other person wants to get and what they can give is what you want to get then, it’s a good match. But sometimes, it just isn’t a match, and sometimes, it doesn’t align that way.
If you tell yourself it’s because you’re unlovable or unworthy then, you lose. This is how psychologically damages yourself from getting that love that you want, that mutually fulfilling amazing relationship that you do truly want, don’t grasp at straws here.
So that’s really where you should be focusing your energy not on this guy, not on how you can win him over, or how you can be enough for him? Because that’s just a waste of time and energy, and that feeds into the needy mindset. And the needy mindset is just poisonous. It is a Man Repeller, and it is just poisonous to you and your life and getting anything that you want in life.